"That new tiling in your bathroom is my poem to you." The husband said when the wife complains the husband is not capable of sweet words or poems while others she admires are. This started with the wife seeing a beautiful love poem from a poet she loves. She couldn't help but read them out loud. The husband didn't take it seriously. He thought it was just words, nothing to be admired and whispered his opinion. The wife was not happy about her husband's reaction. She went nuts for it and started to say the husband hadn't done any romantic gesture or say any romantic words over the years of their marrige. The situation creates three question. 1. Action and words, which one has more influence? 2. Should we accept and respect our lover's beliefs and who they are or change them and persuade them to believe what we believe? 3. If the husband is really that bad and the wife is not into him, why did she marry him in the first place?
Action and words. You really can't tell which one is more important. If you have a fancy mouth and have the voice to change the world then surely your words are more powerful than your actions. But if you've got a stubborn mouth and unclear voice that no one likes to listen to, then your actions are probably more likely to work in most situations. Maybe the pleasure the new tiling gave the wife is not as much as a poem with a bit of ink. But only the wife could find out. Anyways, words or actions, use them wisely and use them properly.
The wife is unhappy and complaining because she can't accept the fact that her husband is incapable of being romantic and he is not going to change, but she still tends to change him. The husband is not happy because he can't understand how much pleasure those simple little words can bring his wife and how much those simple words compare to the time consuming and money consuming tiling that he did for her. The people around us, they're not in our imagination and they're not living for us. They're independent individuals. They don't have to be like us or agree with us. And we are the same to them. We should be able to say our opinons freely and respect others of their ideas and beliefs. But very often we tend to change the people around us to be more like us. And if they raise a second opinion, things can get awkward or even ugly. Especially with the ones we love.
Once you accept your lover, or your family member or friend or even employee, please don't focus on the things you don't like about them or their shortcomings and keep bringing them up. It won't do any good but disappoint yourself and create insecurities for others.
New tiling or sweet words, what would you prefer to get and what do you prefer to give?
Action and words. You really can't tell which one is more important. If you have a fancy mouth and have the voice to change the world then surely your words are more powerful than your actions. But if you've got a stubborn mouth and unclear voice that no one likes to listen to, then your actions are probably more likely to work in most situations. Maybe the pleasure the new tiling gave the wife is not as much as a poem with a bit of ink. But only the wife could find out. Anyways, words or actions, use them wisely and use them properly.
The wife is unhappy and complaining because she can't accept the fact that her husband is incapable of being romantic and he is not going to change, but she still tends to change him. The husband is not happy because he can't understand how much pleasure those simple little words can bring his wife and how much those simple words compare to the time consuming and money consuming tiling that he did for her. The people around us, they're not in our imagination and they're not living for us. They're independent individuals. They don't have to be like us or agree with us. And we are the same to them. We should be able to say our opinons freely and respect others of their ideas and beliefs. But very often we tend to change the people around us to be more like us. And if they raise a second opinion, things can get awkward or even ugly. Especially with the ones we love.
Once you accept your lover, or your family member or friend or even employee, please don't focus on the things you don't like about them or their shortcomings and keep bringing them up. It won't do any good but disappoint yourself and create insecurities for others.
New tiling or sweet words, what would you prefer to get and what do you prefer to give?
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